Passion, Intimacy and Connection, February 2, 2006
Scott Haltzman unveils the differences between men and women and
explains what works. He believes verbal communications is
overvalued and shows how nonverbal communication can be equally
Scott Haltzman encourages an environment of understanding and
appreciation where the unique strengths men possess can be
incorporated into 8 proven techniques that build successful
long-lasting relationships. He has been talking to men about
their marriages for years and also includes unique thoughts
posted at his website.
This is a book for men who want their marriage to last and it
will empower any man who uses the 8 proven techniques. The
research that led Scott Haltzman to write this book is based on
real-life questions and answers.
This book was written for men, but may be enjoyed by women who
want to increase the passion, intimacy and commitment level in
their marriage. By understanding how men and women think, it
could possibly open up a new level of communication and help
couples feel more emotionally connected.
My husband is reading this book! :) Already I think
he understands me better.
~The Rebecca Review
Who's Pushing Your Buttons
Hope in Troubled Times
, December 23, 2008
"Who's Pushing Your Buttons" is one of the best
books I've ever read on conflict resolution. This is a really
useful book that helps you to take charge in very difficult
situations. It is encouraging to know that your relationship
with someone difficult is not completely hopeless.
Dr. John Townsend begins this book by presenting the reasons
someone in your life is a button-pusher. The first chapter
analyzes the problems you may be encountering or at least it
explains the reasons people are button-pushers.
In a way, this book is as much about working on yourself as it
is about getting another person to change. Most of the book
deals with issues you can handle yourself, like getting a life
vs. being obsessive about a troublesome relationship. As you
work on yourself the situation can start to change. Simply by
spending more time away from the problem it can get better. That
is just the start of how to deal with problems. Dr. John
Townsend has quite a few good solutions that involve setting
boundaries and at times withdrawing from difficult people. This
seemed to work well with relatives that were out of control.
Most of the advice in this book seems to work well within a
marriage relationship. My husband and I take turns being each
other's button pushers. He thinks I talk too much about certain
subjects (I analyze a lot) and I think he talks too little about
subjects important to me. So there are some topics we just have
to avoid. That was something that wasn't addressed in the book -
avoidance of dangerous topics that cause anger.
This book is much more in favor of taking the bull by the horns.
For lasting change and a peaceful relationship sometimes you
have to make difficult decisions that could cause a temporary
loss of comfort. While this book doesn't advocate a total
separation I think that might be useful in some relationships.
The author believes there is hope for everyone but does believe
you should get help if your relationship has turned violent.
So if you are in a relationship where someone is driving you
crazy you might just have a button-pusher on your hands.
According to this book, there is hope and you have more control
over the situation than you realize. I can highly recommend this
book to anyone struggling in an abusive relationship. The ideas
in this book will help you with relatives, friends, work
associates and marriage partners. It is great to know that you
can turn any relationship around with God's help and a bit of
wisdom and persistence.
I've found that reading relationship books and trying to
practice unconditional love has been what keeps my marriage
together. Each book I read gives me new ideas and I try to put
them into practice as soon as possible. I have noticed that as I
change myself and try to be a better person, my relationship
with my husband and family is better. So I really agree with the
author's ideas of working on yourself first so you can be a good
example of how to live out the Christian life. I'm not perfect
but thirteen years of marriage has made me a better person. So
it is worth sticking it out during troubled times.
~The Rebecca Review