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The Way We Were

The Way We Were

5 out of 5 stars =    I want us to love each other

Reviewer: The Rebecca Review.com

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you did not do than those you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. Give yourself away to the sea of life.” –Mark Twain

Katie (Barbra Streisand) and Hubbell (Robert Redford) could not be more different. She is an “anti-war” activist, while he is content to write novels and observe life from a distance. When life throws them together at college for the first time, they barely notice one another. Then when Katie finds Hubbell in a club, she uses all her feminine wiles to entice him back into her world. Hubbell seems slightly impressed that she loves his writing and that she has even gone to the trouble to find a copy of his book.

Katie and Hubbell are truly opposites and that is the attraction. It is the whole “liberal” falls for “conservative” story. It is also the “woman-loves-man-more-than-man-loves-woman tragedy.” While men are attracted to complex women at times, they often just want someone who is easy going and who can help them find that place of “nothingness.” Katie is just “everything.” She wants “everything” and to be “everything.” She wants to save the world from impending doom.

Katie only sees the need for “world peace” without considering that the freedoms and relative peace she has were the result of wars and sacrifice. She seems to be living in a dream world where everyone loves one another and is happy and equal. She has a very shallow view of communism. Katie lives life as if it is a life-and-death struggle. The needs of the planet come before her romantic interests. She also doesn’t realize you are not supposed to drink and smoke while pregnant. There is a way to ruin a child’s life!

Hubbell almost seems jaded in some ways. He seems to have observed the world and decided it isn’t going to change anytime soon, so why not enjoy life before it passes you by. Life is easier for him. He doesn’t seem to be fighting life. The way Katie thinks frustrates him, amuses him and eventually exasperates him. All he wants is just to find pleasure and she is always on the hunt for the better life. She pushes him to the edge of himself. He really just wants a woman who will enjoy life with him.

There is a scene, wow, how can I say it? Poignant doesn’t do it justice. It isn’t really emotionally intense because it is more of a picture of resolve. It is just an incredible scene where Katie calls Hubbell and asks him to come over and talk to her because he is her best friend and she needs to talk to him about her break up. Of course, they have just broken up and he is her best friend. So, it makes it a very difficult situation. Imagine losing the person you can talk to about anything and someone who you love the most in the world.

The beauty of this movie is in the struggle. Politics aside, this story has enough romance to keep your attention. This is probably a movie that will make a lot more sense while watching it during a war. Especially with what went on at the Academy Awards. At times you have to wonder at the irony of needing war to keep the peace. Ideally we all want peace, but I’ve always thought that was a dream world. Is Utopia really possible in this life? Still, humans are allowed to dream.

If I had the choice between watching people suffer under a tyrant and believing the world was at peace because there wasn’t a war OR watching people attain freedom and knowing it was because of a war and sacrifice, I’d choose “freedom.” Freedom is not free. Saying you want peace, makes “you” look good, but it doesn’t do a darn thing for someone who doesn’t have the freedom even to voice their opinions. I think the real heroes are those men and women who go and set people free from the bondage of their tyrannical governments.

Katie and Hubbell do seem to find peace in the end even if they don’t save the world. What a pity they can’t save their own world. What they share has such beauty and freedom. Hubbell really does learn to allow Katie just to say what she wants to say and be who she was born to be. Unfortunately, she is a bit intense.

Romantic and Tragic. Maybe some people are only supposed to love each other for a short time even though you wish they could be best friends or partners for life.

 

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